Many believe Valentine’s is just another commercial holiday, a way for people to go out and spend money as a means of expressing their love to others. For me growing up, the day was just a family celebration, where we made the time to have a nice home cook meal together and enjoy one another’s company. As I grew older I realized that love has many different meanings, which cannot always be captured in a hallmark card. Over the past few years, I have taken the time not only to show my family how I appreciate and love them but recently extended my display of affection to my friends. Although I never received a dozen rose, I have always had a happy valentine’s day regardless. But one year, I realized that I had forgotten to show the most important person in my life love.
When is the last time you showed yourself some Self-Love?
Love comes in many different forms, and while love is love, self-love is important and we should be showing ourselves some T.L.C every day. So what is self-love and why is it important? Allow me to create an illustration with an analogy that was recently given to me.
Imagine two individuals are holding a candle. Both individuals want to light the other person’s candle to give them light and make them happy. The only problem is their own flame is not light. How can we expect to light someone else candle if our own flame is not lite? How do you expect to love someone else, if we haven’t taken care of our needs?
Self-love is the act of taking care of our own well-being and happiness. It is the need proceed of being selfish before we can be selfless to others especially those we love. We need to learn to be selfish first before we can be selfless.
You are probably wondering what love, emotions, and self-love have to do with education and learning disabilities. At first, I didn’t make the connection but after going and growing through my experience I realized it is a critical part of the journey of success.
Most individuals with the learning disability are diagnosed at a young age. The challenges students may encounter with their LD can impact their self-esteem and self-confidence from young and continue as an adult. Children build their self-esteem by comparing their abilities with their peers. A student with dyslexia is likely to internalize their problems in reading as a personal attribute and will avoid reading activities. In my cases, I have always been self-cautious about my writing abilities. I would encounter mental blocks of self-doubt, overthinking situations to the point that I would not write a sentence. (Starting this blog has been an emotional challenge). These negative thoughts that play through our heads as a kid continues into are adulthood and in some case for the rest of our lives.
The only way to get past these mental blocks in our head is to cast it out with self-love. I had to realize that in order to fulfill my goals for Special Compass, I had to show myself some self-love and break past my mental blocks. My learning disability is a part of me but it does not define who I am. My imperfections are what make me unique and rather than be shy and hide from them I need to embrace them. If I want to help others, I need to help myself first.
In life, we will always have good intentions to do well on to others. But we cannot lite someone else’s candle if our flame is not burning. The journey to success can be challenging and while we are here to support one another, make sure you take care of yourself first give the show some love to you.